Optimise your week - Calming the Mind Monkeys
Ear Worms, Self-talk and powerful words (things to avoid when you set resolutions).
The primitive part of our mind has certain built-in filters that either permit or prevent information from getting in and influencing us. ‘What ifs’, the mind really doesn’t like its missing pieces. Just like when we get a bar of a song stuck in our heads that goes on and on all day to a point of irritation. The brain doesn’t like the partial information and sets the process going on repeat until it finds a conclusion. So, if you are thinking a negative ‘What if’ you will be quite stressed anxious or even depressed by the end of the day
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The same may be said of events that happen in life. Events that remain incomplete get locked in and repeated time and again making the smallest of mole hills feel like mount Everest. This in turn leads to anxiety, self-sabotage, fear and low self-esteem all locked in by that perpetual self-talk running in the background ‘trying’ to find the missing piece
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Amongst the words in our self-talk that should be avoided are many culprits that contribute to these negative thoughts. ‘I can’t’, ‘What if’, ‘I’ll try’, ‘if’, ‘just’, ‘but’ and ‘why’ are just a few. The more times you tell yourself you can’t, then you won’t! Your brain believes you. What if, is usually followed by a negative because that is seen to be safer by the amygdala (part of the primitive mind), ‘I’ll try to’ usually ends with, ‘but I failed’. Just, makes something seem insignificant and unimportant. But, is usually followed by an excuse as to why not and the why can amplify the problem you are attempting to solve and ensures you get stuck.
Change your language, change your life!
So, it is really important to check your self-talk and ensure you are not setting yourself up to fail. If you would like to have a free PDF of some simple phrase or word swaps please use the contact us button and type ‘Chatter Monkeys’ in the text box to receive some language hacks that you can use this week and going forward to improve your mind chatter




